Maya Angelou, Phenomenal Woman
Acclaimed author, poet, and activist, Dr. Maya Angelou died yesterday, May 28th, at the age of 86. Though she is no longer with us physically, she will forever be in our hearts. Here is one of my favorites…from Maya.
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
One old love she can imagine going back to ...and one who reminds her how far she has come.
Enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own...even if she never wants or needs to.
Something perfect to wear if the employer or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour.
A youth she's content to leave behind.
A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age.
The realization that she is actually going to have an old age and some money set aside to fund it...
A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
One friend who always makes her laugh.........and one who lets her cry.
A good piece of furniture not owned previously by anyone else in her family.
Eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems and a recipe for a meal that will make her guests feel honored.
A resume that is not even the slightest bit padded.
A feeling of control over her destiny.
A skin care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
How to fall in love without losing herself.
How she feels about having kids.
How to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
When to try harder....and when to walk away.
How to have a good time at a party she'd never choose to attend.
How to ask for what she wants in a way that makes it most likely she'll get it.
That she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents.
That her childhood may not have been perfect but it's over.
What she would or wouldn't do for love or money.
How to live alone even if she doesn't like it.
Whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally....
Where to go...be it to her best friend's kitchen table or a charming inn in the woods when her soul needs soothing in a day....a month...a year.
Do you have a favorite from Maya Angelou? I would love to hear from you.
Love your Life!
As Bob Marley so eloquently stated, “love the life you live; live the life you love.” People who are zestfully embracing the aging process love their life, whatever that life is.
Sometimes, well meaning family members and friends will go to great lengths to convince you that you don’t love your life. For example, I can’t tell you the number of times I have been asked if I have found my soul mate. When asked why the interest, the response more often than not is “We care and we want you to be happy.” The underlying assumption is that unless one has found their soul mate, it’s not possible to be happy; not possible to love their status –no matter what it is. Even if your life is crappy, pick out something good among the crap and focus on that something. Then, go about the business of making changes.
When you can love where you are right now or “bloom where you are planted”, there are no regrets. One more thing, wherever you are… is where you’re supposed to be. When it’s time to transition to a new life, just know that you have everything you need within you to make it happen.
Do you love your life? If no, what adjustments do you need to make to bring some love into the life you now have?
Live with Passion
Passion keeps you young in body, mind, and spirit. It gives a deeper meaning to your life
Finding and following your passion can be emotionally challenging, but well worth it. Some people discover their passion early in life while others have to work at it. Those who discover it early are the lucky ones.
When I think of someone who is living with passion, I think of my friend, Lovette. A few months shy of her 90th birthday, Lovette is active, engaged, and her social/activity calendar rivals people decades younger. What keeps her going? It’s in her “genes”; and it’s her passion and lifelong commitment for African American art and culture and African American history. She has a “fire in her heart” for exposing young people to the global black experience. In her mid 80s she became the driving force behind the establishment of a community center that houses, displays and disseminates a special collection of books, artifacts, media, and photographs documenting the Global Black Experience.
Meet the fit, fabulous, and fearless Lovette enjoying music and art at Fulton-Ross art studio.
It’s never too late to find your passion and follow it. It does take some soul searching, reflection, commitment and courage. Courage because it might mean taking some risks and stepping outside of your comfort zone; or doing some things that might not seem appropriate at the time.
What are you passionate about?