According to Suzanne Braun Levine, “the best thing a man can do for his health is to get married to a woman. One of the best things a woman can do for her health is to nurture a relationship with her girlfriends. This is especially true as we get older”. Levine cites 6 compelling reason to have close girlfriends. They are as follows:
- They are fun to be with. This is not to say that we don’t have fun with our spouses or partners. But, many of us have even more fun with our girlfriends. In fact, Levine states that “our girlfriends are often our first choice when we want to celebrate an important milestone”.
- The root for us and they put up with us. When things are good, our girlfriends are right there with us. And, when we are unreasonable (or acting stupidly), they tolerate and forgive us. They love and believe in us unconditionally.
- They stand by us and with us. Girlfriends support us – through thick and thin. They are there when times are good, and when times are not so good. They applaud us when we’re up and lift us when we are down. In times of crises, they are right there standing beside us.
- They listen when we just want to vent. Girlfriends, at least my girlfriends, know that when I am venting, I don’t want advice, I just want an “ear”. Just let me rant and rave; and wallow in self-pity. They know that I just want their undivided attention. And, when it’s their turn, I will give them mine.
- They make us laugh, and keep us sane. Not only do our girlfriends make us laugh, they also laugh at our jokes – no matter how corny.
- They know when we are hurt and angry. And, somehow, they know exactly what to say or what not to say.
I am adding one more thing to Levine’s list. Girlfriends empower us and help us feel better about ourselves. They boost our self-esteem and sense of self-worth. With them, we feel important, capable, strong, and extra-special. When we leave our girlfriends, we feel good!
Do you have other compelling reasons why girlfriends are important for women over 50? Let me hear from you. Let’s see how many reasons we can come up with.
I am now 65. So, maybe this is why I have been focusing on women who have aged beautifully; who do not look their age. From researching and asking questions, here are a few more tips I have picked up:
- Clean your Face – Wash your face twice a day. Use a gentle, mild cleanser; and never use alcohol as a toner. Never sleep in your make-up. It clogs the skin. Moisturize your skin morning and evening. And, get a facial (you can do it yourself at home) at least once a month.
- Sunscreen – Sunscreen protects your skin from visible signs of aging. And, it protects you from getting skin cancer. Dark skin, light skin… It doesn’t matter the color of your skin, sunscreen is a must. Better still, stay out of the sun, period.
- Water— Drink plenty of water. It does wonders for your looks. You will look younger and healthier when your skin is properly hydrated. Water helps to replenish skin tissues, moisturizes skin and increases skin elasticity. It flushes out impurities in your skin, leaving you with a clear, glowing complexion.
- Smile – It takes more muscles to frown than to smile. The smile is your million dollar asset. You can work miracles with a smile. Smiling lights up your face and costs absolutely nothing. Don’t forget to take care of your teeth. Brush, brush, brush….floss, floss, floss. And, visit your dentist at least once a year; more often if you are an excessive coffee or tea drinker. Both stain your teeth, adding years to your looks.
- Weight – Maintain a healthy weight. Contrary to what you have heard, you can be too thin. In my opinion (IMO), nothing ages you more than being too thin. When you are too thin, it shows in your face and neck which prematurely ages you. If you are naturally thin, then work out… do some strength training and build some muscle. Sagging (flabby) arms, face, and neck make you look much older than you are. IMO.
- Hair – Take care of your hair. This is one of those lessons I wish I had learned when I was in my 20s. I didn’t. But, I don’t fret over it anymore because I have learned 2 things: 1) I am NOT my hair and; 2) there is never a reason to have a “bad” hair day. There are scarves, hats, and, yes, wigs. I am a bona fide wig lover. To me, wigs are one of human’s greatest discoveries. With wigs, I can change my hair and my overall appearance as often as I like; and I never worry about a bad hair day. I can be glamorous each and every day. If you are going the wig route, please get an expert wig stylist. A good stylist will help you avoid the “wiggy” look. Nothing ages you more than a “wiggy-looking” wig.
My last beauty tip for the week is attitude. Don’t let your attitude date you. Let it shine, shine, shine. Even if you have not physically aged gracefully, a positive, upbeat, attitude can make a huge difference.
Any beauty tips you want to share? Let me hear from you.