Ageless beauties... Do you know women who are healthier, happier, more confident and more beautiful today than they were 5, 10,
or 15 years ago? Are you one of those women?
I am. My hair is no longer long, black and thick; my skin is no longer tight and smooth. I don’t move quite as fast. I don’t even think I am as tall. Yet, I am, without a doubt, an ageless beauty.
Being an ageless beauty isn’t something that’s reserved for a few. Anyone can be one by practicing these 5 easy-to-implement beauty tips.
- Exercise. Most ageless beauties have one thing in common: exercise. We engage in some form of physical exercise at least 5 days a week. Our routine falls into 3 categories: cardio, strength training, and flexibility (stretching). And, we engage in activities that we enjoy. For example, I love to dance. So, I dance at least 3 days a week – at home or at my gym. Whether at home or at my gym, I dance as if no one is watching.
- Eat and drink more consciously. This doesn’t mean that we don’t sometimes overindulge. For the most part, however, we watch what we eat and when we eat it. We include more fresh fruit, vegetables, and fish in our diet. And, we limit our intake of fried foods, red meat, prepackaged foods, sugary drinks, alcohol, and caffeine.
- Establish and stick to a beauty regiment. Clean your skin before going to bed, use a moisturizer daily, wear sun screen and avoid prolonged exposure to the sun. Make drinking more plain water a vital part of your beauty regiment. It does wonders for your body, especially your skin. Water helps to replenish skin tissues, moisturize skin and increase skin elasticity. It flushes out impurities in your skin, leaving you with a clear, glowing complexion; a more youthful complexion.
- Update your appearance. Don’t let your wardrobe date you. While I don’t obsess about it, I love to look fashionable – even when working out. I keep abreast of fashion trends. And, once or twice a year, I add a trendy yet classic item to my wardrobe.
- Cultivate an empowering relationship. An empowering relationship is a nurturing, supportive relationship that can show up in different ways: spouse, partner, boyfriend/friend or simply a bff (best friend forever). Not just anybody, but a person who shares your enthusiasm for living; and is willing to do things – like go dancing. For example, my 80 year old friend – an avid runner, golfer, and ageless beauty – has a boyfriend who runs with her at least 2 days a week. They even trained for and ran a half marathon (13.1 miles). This new relationship has literally added even more “pep” to her step.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
Being an ageless beauty isn’t dictated by one’s genes, it’s about one’s attitude, lifestyle, and the willingness to embrace change.
If you’re an ageless beauty…and you know it, please let me hear from you. What is one beauty tip you can share with me?
Here are a few more things I know about aging.
It’s never too late. Technically, the aging process begins at birth. So, the sooner you start engaging in healthy lifestyle habits, the better. However, whether you start at 30, 40, 50, or you’re just getting started (in your 60s or 70s); it’s never too late. You will still reap tremendous benefits.
Take care of yourself. If the goal is to age with dignity and confidence, it’s imperative that you take care of yourself. This means making fitness, health, and wellness your top priorities. Taking care of yourself means caring for your mind, body, and spirit by: making better food choices, exercising, getting enough sleep, associating with right-minded and positive people, staying active, and just having balance in your life.
Accept and embrace the aging process. Don’t fight it; embrace it. Contrary to what we have been told (by ourselves or the media), aging is not a disease to be avoided at all cost. It’s not about gloom and doom. It’s something to look forward to. If you don’t think so, consider the alternatives. When you accept and embrace the aging process, you can make an informed decision about how you want to live out the rest of your life.
Feel good about yourself. When it comes to aging gracefully, feeling good about yourself is at the very top of the list of things I know for sure. I know for sure that if you don’t value, appreciate and feel good about yourself and what you have accomplished, the aging process can be daunting. Feeling healthy and feeling good about yourself is not a luxury. It’s a necessity.
Never stop learning. Learning is vital to aging well. Embrace technology. Thanks to technology, the whole wide world is just a click away. Technology makes life easier, more comfortable, and it helps you to stay connected and to maintain your independence. Plus, you can learn something new every day without even leaving home. And, if you really want to step it up a notch, become a part of the social media network: tweet, blog, use Facebook.
It’s never too late to start!
What are some things you know about aging? I would love to hear from you.
How often do you hear “aging gracefully” and think….“blah, blah, blah”? A friend once remarked annoyingly, “Such an overused phrase”. While it may be a cliché, if we live long enough, it happens. And, since it happens, why not do it with style, dignity, and confidence. And, to me, this is what “grace” is all about. Agree?
While aging gracefully means different things to different people, the bottom line is this: there is no way around it. We get older, we age. Aging is simply another stage in our lives; a stage that can be exciting or humdrum. Whether it’s exciting or humdrum is entirely up to you. On this, you are 100% in control. For that stage to be exciting it requires energy, stamina, and the right mental attitude. For it to be humdrum, it requires virtually nothing. Just be still and watch life pass you by.
For some, aging gracefully means: staying active, not fighting the idea of biological aging, and moving forward in a manner that doesn’t deny who you are. For others, it means accepting the inevitable changes of aging, finding meaningful activities, and being optimistic. For me, it means all of these things. However, it also means accepting myself for who and what I am; accepting and embracing the aging process and the changes it’s bringing; and making the necessary adjustments – emotionally/mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, and otherwise – to adapt to those changes.
While there is a lot about aging I don’t know, there are some things I do know. For example, I know that aging gracefully is focusing on those qualities that accrue with maturity and make you attractive at any age. I also know that aging gracefully isn’t just about looking good; it’s about feeling good in every way – physically, psychologically, intellectually, occupationally, socially, and spiritually. And, finally, I am convinced that the three most important ingredients to graceful aging are: attitude, lifestyle, and the ability to accept change.
What does “aging gracefully” mean to you? Let me hear from you.
Welcome to 2013! My motto this year is…be heard and seen in 2013. This year, resolve to: let your light shine a little bit brighter than it did in 2012… and have a stronger presence in your community. To do this, here is what I am suggesting.
- Exercise. You don’t need 1 or 2 hours, you only need 20 or 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week, to see results. Shoot for cardio, balance, stretching, and resistance training. For cardio, mix it up – walking, jogging, dancing, swimming, biking.
- Eat and drink consciously. Be more aware of what and how much you eat and drink. Your food/drink choices can affect your body, mind, emotions, and overall well being – now as well as in the future. Making better food/drink choices isn’t an option, it’s a necessity. Drinking consciously means adding more plain water to your daily diet.
- Volunteer. To add some real excitement to your life, volunteer. The benefits are too numerous to list here. Just know, however, that your community AND you reap tremendous benefits when you give the gift of your time and expertise.
- Listen more. This is one I am going to work hard on for I am an interrupter. Listen without interrupting, without giving advice, and without telling your own story. You can tell your story, later. Oh! And, listening does not mean giving advice unless asked. Even then, be careful what you say. Sometimes, people just want to be heard.
- Connect. Have one person you connect with every single day. This is especially important as you get older. This let someone know that you are alive and well. And, it lets the other person know that they matter. And, it demonstrates your commitment to being seen.
- Be positive. Every day, resolve to do these three things to maintain a positive attitude: smile, focus on what you have not what you don’t have, and expect only great things to happen to you.
- Be authentic. Everything is easier when you are relevant, helpful, authentic, and “do you”. To “do you” is another way of saying, be yourself.
- Be thankful. Make thankfulness a daily habit. Each day is a gift. So, be gracious and grateful.
What are some of your plans for being heard and seen in 2013? Let me hear from you.
2012 was an exciting yet intense year for me. I spent 9 months volunteering as a Neighborhood Team Leader (NTL) to help re-elect President Obama. And, with the help of many people, mostly senior citizens (65 or older), I am happy to say, “Mission Accomplished”! Winning was… ooh so sweet!
As NTL, I, again, got to use my leadership skills. This experience – though awesome - reminded me of why I decided to teach leadership vs. “do” leadership. Nevertheless, I met and worked with some amazing people who truly epitomized what it meant to “age gracefully”. These people, mostly women, were unlike any seniors I had ever met; or even read about. They were focused, tireless, fearless, committed, and determined. They were the busiest, most active senior citizens I had ever met.
One key lesson learned was: Never piss off or fire up (unless it’s in your best interest) a bunch of informed seniors, especially women. Don’t be fooled by their age. They will get you; they will make you pay.
These women helped me redefine the way I view senior citizens. And, they showed me what it meant to embrace aging with dignity, style and confidence. On several occasions, I thought to myself, “If this is what a senior citizen look and act like, then, I want to be one of those.”
A few weeks after having this thought, I received my Medicare card. This was as weird as receiving my AARP card. Initially, I thought it was a mistake. Then, it hit me! I am a senior citizen, fast approaching 65. I am already “one of those”.
Ever since that Medicare card came in the mail, I have been pondering my next move; asking myself, “what’s next”? I am simply too young to retire. I have not yet decided on “my next” big move. I have, however, decided how I will approach 2013. This is what I intend to do: make thankfulness a habit; be more authentic and “do me” (i.e., be myself); be kinder, gentler, more tolerant and more forgiving; listen more without interrupting; be more accepting and nonjudgmental; reflect on my past year, looking for the lessons learned; and lighten up on myself. Oh! And I intend to “get a date”!
How do you intend to approach 2013? Let me hear from you.