Women and Friendship

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Women and Friendship

Last night I saw an independent film “Book Club”, a documentary by Hope Hartman about 8 women who showed up month after month for 62 years to read (and discuss) books. That's right, 62 years. They even planned vacations around those monthly meetings. I can’t imagine doing anything with that kind of consistency for 62 years.  Even one of the members herself said "I haven't been committed to anything or anyone else for that long."  While the story was about reading, it was also about women and friendship. Friendships that flourished because of their love for books, mutual support, and their respect for each other. Facilitated, of course, by their decision to avoid discussions about religion and politics.

 My Superwoman of the Week 

All of the women were fascinating. The one I found most memorable was Mary Lathram, who has been in the Top Ten in the national U. S. Masters swimmers listing for more than 15 years. I couldn’t wait to get home so that I could Google her. Here is some of what I learned about Mary. In her 90’s, she still competes in four or five local meets a year and attends Senior Olympics and USMS national championships.  When she turned 90 (2005), she garnered a first place finish and set a world record in the 200 M backstroke. 

In the film, Mary stated that, initially, she was reluctant to compete; not because she doubted her ability, but because of how she looked – i.e., “her stomach “pooched” out and she didn't look that great in a bathing suit”. After her 1st competition, however, she realized that the only person concerned about what she looked like was her. They only cared about how she swam.  

How often do we concern ourselves with things that matters to no one but us? For example, how we look?  On this, I am guilty. I, too, sometimes obsess over my belly fat. Forget the fact that I am 64, physically active, and look and feel absolutely fabulous. 

The lessons: No matter your age, be and do you and accept yourself for who you are; nurture your friendships, especially with your women friends; and be thankful – for everything.    

As I was leaving the movie theater, I found myself wondering what it must feel like to have the same circle of friends for over 60 years; people you see month after month, with regularity and consistency. I also left thinking how nice it must be to still be active well into your 90s. 

Do you have friends you have seen month after month for over 20, 40, or 60 years? How does that feel? I would love to hear from you. 

Counting down… Next week, I will return with 10 more nuggets for women who want to age gracefully and with dignity and confidence. I will also tell you about my new passion/interest. 

On Not Growing Old

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Over the past few months, I have met and worked with some amazing women, in their early 70s to mid 80s. Chronologically, these women are considered old (senior citizens), but mentally and physically, they are decades younger. Daily, I am surrounded by some of the wisest and sanest people I have ever met. It’s impossible to not listen to them without learning. Every single day, I learn something new – about the world; about myself. These women show me just how much I don’t know about living and aging.

The one thing these women have in common is their remarkable attitude about life. They seem not to mind getting older, but they refuse to get old. Here are a few other things they have in common.  

  • They are active – in every way. They are engaged and involved in some type of social activity – whether community or church. They all do some form of physical exercise on a regular basis. They walk, play tennis, take group exercise classes, or swim. One even participates in a weekly hip hop dance class. Another meets her walk group at 6:30 a.m. at least 5 days a week.
  • They are conscious about what they eat. Even when we work long hours, I notice that they don’t eat a lot of junk. In their bags, they have apples, nuts, water, and other healthy snacks.
  • They have a supportive inner circle. Some of these women have had the same friends for over 50 years. And, they take time out of their busy schedules to spend time with their friends and family. They remember and celebrate special events like birthdays, and the like.
  • They are current. They keep up with current events. Many are even technologically savvy; sending me emails and text messages. One even has a twitter account.
  • They are passionate about something. Right now, they are focused on impacting the results of the 2012 presidential election. So, they are tireless and fearless – even though it sometimes means stepping outside of their comfort zone.

These women are a living testament to George Burn’s quote that “you can’t help getting older, but you don’t have to get old”.  

Do you have some thoughts on not growing old? Let me hear from you. 

Aging Gracefully…It is what it is

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One Monday morning as I was pumping away in my three times a week, hour long stretch and muscle class, I noticed that the class, primarily women (a couple of lucky guys), had an average age of around 66.  Later, while listening to some of the chatter that goes on before the class officially started, I observed that many of the women (me included) were almost as obsessed with flabby arms (triceps) and belly fat as some younger women.

In this class, our routine consists of numerous repetitions (reps) and moves directed at triceps and belly fat. Sometimes, it feels as if my arms are going to fall off; and my ribs have been run over by a truck. Yet, no matter how many reps I do, my triceps still jiggle; and my belly is still fat (I am talking mini muffin top). 

The instructor works the hell out of both. She has been teaching this class for over 20 years; and many of the same students have been taking the class for that long. I often wonder what her triceps and abs look like.  I don’t know. No one I have spoken to has ever seen her triceps or her abs. Why? Because while we live in Florida, she always wears a loose fitting shirt and long sleeves (no matter how hot the exercise room gets). Some of us have concluded that either she has “killer” triceps and a six pack (hard abs); and, she doesn’t want to flaunt them for fear of making us even more self-conscious. Or her triceps and abs are just as flabby as ours. Whatever the reason, I am beginning to think that for those of us pushing 60 or have moved beyond, belly fat and jiggly arms are here to stay – no matter what we do or how much we do it. Therefore, it’s time to STOP obsessing over them. It is what it is.

Now, here’s an interesting tidbit. I am the only African American woman in these classes. When I am with my African American women friends, belly fat and flabby triceps never enter into the conversation. My African American sisters are not concerned. They don’t go around hiding their arms in long sleeves and binding their bodies with tight fitting undergarments (think spanx). They proudly go sleeveless and let it all hang out. They graciously accept the fact that they are no longer 30; and after a certain age, stuff happens.  By the way, I love that attitude. However, just as some women, regardless of age, are not ready for gray hair (I was ready for it in my early 50s), I am not quite ready for giggly arms and belly fat.

How about you? How do you feel about jiggly arms and belly fat? Let me hear your thoughts.

No Electric Slide

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No Electric Slide

It has been well over 2 weeks since posting. But, I am still meeting and noticing people who are aging beautifully. Some actually make you look forward to getting older. There are some benefits; many, in fact. For one, you get a free pass on some things when you get older. For example, older people, especially after a certain age, can say whatever…and get away with it.

Last week, while attending the wedding of my beautiful niece, I had the pleasure of chatting with another over 80 year old diva – my sister-n-laws mother. She was full of life, energy and opinions. Have you ever noticed that some older people have lots of opinions and really don’t care whether you agree with them or not?  They sit, observe, and notice things. And, sometimes they comment. I love being around seniors who keep up with current events and have some knowledge of pop culture. For example, after the wedding reception (where we had loads of fun), my 80 year old diva (and she looked the part) remarked that it was the first wedding reception she had ever been to where they didn’t do the electric slide. Apparently, her only dance of the night (even though she walked with a cane) was to be the electric slide. And, since there was no electric slide, she didn’t get a chance to dance. She, again, reminded me that “age is only a number”.

5 More Nuggets

I am almost at the end of my nugget – just a few more to go.  Again, the nuggets are based on my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets for Women Who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence. Here are five more.

  • Manage your stress
    “Stress is the confusion created when one's mind overrides the body's basic desire to choke the living daylights out of some jerk who desperately deserves it.” – Unknown
  • Don’t smoke.
    “The best way to stop smoking is to just stop - no ifs, ands or butts.”  -Edith Zittler
  • Don’t sweat the small stuff.
    “Don't sweat the small stuff...and it's all small stuff.”  -Richard Carlson
  • Keep learning.
    “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.” –Henry Ford
  • Stand/sit up straight.
    “A good stance and posture reflect a proper state of mind.”  -Morihei Ueshiba

Send me your nuggets. I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.  And, I am still looking for women who are aging gracefully (with dignity and confidence). Let me hear from you.

Here’s Another One………….

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Last week, I had an opportunity to work with a 77 year old (of course, I should say “young”) OFA volunteer, Ms. Lillie. The woman is phenomenal. She was hosting a voter registration drive that she had organized. The 1st shift started at 10:00 a.m.; the last shift ended at 4:00 p.m. The day before, she informed me that she arrives at her sites early so that she can be organized and ready to receive people. Knowing that the shift started at 10:00, I told her that I would get there around 9:15 a.m.to help with set-up. I arrived promptly. Not only was Ms. Lillie there (she arrived at 9:00 a.m.), but she had her table and chairs set up (she brought them with her, leaving nothing to chance); and had one person waiting to be registered. Thinking she would do one shift and leave, she informed me that she would be doing all three shifts. She had brought everything she needed to put in a full day. Ms. Lillie arrived at 9:00 a.m.; and left at 4:00 p.m. As we were preparing to leave, she mentioned that this would give her just enough time to go home, and get ready to attend her next event (a banquet) which started at 6:00 p.m. And, I was thinking, “I need to go home and take a quick nap.”

How about that for a 77 year young woman, with the energy of 3 people?  The key to her energy level? She gave much credit to: her supportive family and friends, her church, her commitment to her community and civic responsibilities, and her diet and exercise regimen. I think that her positive, caring, and giving attitude is a contributing factor. She reminded me of the little energizer bunny that keeps on giving…to her church, her community, her family, and herself. 

Do you know any Ms. Lillies? If you do, please let me hear from you.

5 More Nuggets

A continuation of my nuggets of truth for women who want to age with dignity and confidence. As I compiled these nuggets, my mind kept going back to Ms. Lillie and all of the other superwomen I have mentioned in previous posts. These people reinforce that age is only a number. 

  • Look for the good in others.
    “No matter where you go or what you do, you will find in other people exactly what you are looking for.” – Daisy Saunders
  • Enjoy the simple things.
    “If the sight of the blue skies fills you with joy; if a blade of grass has power to move you; if the simple things of nature have a message that you understand, Rejoice, for your soul is alive.”  – Eleonora Duse
  • Get regular medical check-ups and make the most of your visits.
    “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” – Unknown
  • Think young.
     “You're never too old to become younger.” – Mae West
  • Stay active and intellectually curious.
    “Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.” Albert Einstein

Send me your nuggets. I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.  And, I am still looking for women who are aging gracefully (with dignity and confidence). Let me hear from you.

Credo for Aging….Passion Drives You

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Credo for Aging….Passion Drives You

Lately, I have been intrigued with the concept of grassroots organizing. What started out as a 2-hour a week volunteer commitment (with Organizing for America- OFA) has now snowballed into many hours a week. Sometimes, it feels like a full time job. Much to learn…much to do…Never enough hours in the day. I have always known what it felt like to be passionate about something. I must admit, however, that for the past few years, I had become complacent and forgotten the feeling.  And, now with my work with OFA, I am remembering. When you are passionate about something, it drives you. Passion keeps you young in body, mind, and spirit. Doing something you are passionate about can transform your life in so many ways. It helps you stay sharp and you tend to not focus on your own woes. You are able to get outside of yourself; and be of service to others.

It’s never too late to find your passion and follow it. It does take some soul searching, reflection, commitment and courage. Courage because it might mean taking some risks and stepping outside of your comfort zone; or doing some things that might not seem appropriate at the time.

This is what grassroots organizing is doing for me. Many days, I am outside of my comfort zone, but I do it anyway. And, for the most part, I do feel that I am making a difference.  

What are you passionate about? What impact has it had or is it having on your life?

5 More Nuggets

A continuation of my nuggets of truth for women who want to age with dignity and confidence. By the way, passion was one of the nuggets I shared in one of my earlier posts.

  • Pray.
    “More things are wrought by prayer than this world dreams of.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson
  • Practice gratitude.
    “We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.” – Cynthia Ozick
  • Have goals.
    “A goal is a dream with a deadline.” – Napoleon Hill
  • Dream big.
    "Dreams come in a size too big so we can grow into them." – Josie Bisset                     
  • Practice forgiveness.
    “To err is human, to forgive divine.” – Alexander Pope

If you have some nuggets (or comments) or quotes you would like to share, I welcome them. As always, I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.  And, I am still looking for women who are aging gracefully (with dignity and confidence). Let me hear from you.

Women and Friendship

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Women and Friendship

 Last night I saw an independent film “Book Club”, a documentary by Hope Hartman about 8 women who showed up month after month for 62 years to read (and discuss) books. That's right, 62 years. They even planned vacations around those monthly meetings. I can’t imagine doing anything with that kind of consistency for 62 years.  Even one of the members herself said "I haven't been committed to anything or anyone else for that long."  While the story was about reading, it was also about women and friendship. Friendships that flourished because of their love for books, mutual support, and their respect for each other. Facilitated, of course, by their decision to avoid discussions about religion and politics.

My Superwoman of the Week

All of the women were fascinating. The one I found most memorable was Mary Lathram, who has been in the Top Ten in the national U. S. Masters swimmers listing for more than 15 years. I couldn’t wait to get home so that I could Google her. Here is some of what I learned about Mary. In her 90’s, she still competes in four or five local meets a year and attends Senior Olympics and USMS national championships.  When she turned 90 (2005), she garnered a first place finish and set a world record in the 200 M backstroke.

In the film, Mary stated that, initially, she was reluctant to compete; not because she doubted her ability, but because of how she looked – i.e., “her stomach “pooched” out and she didn't look that great in a bathing suit”. After her 1st competition, however, she realized that the only person concerned about what she looked like was her. They only cared about how she swam. 

How often do we concern ourselves with things that matters to no one but us? For example, how we look?  On this, I am guilty. I, too, sometimes obsess over my belly fat. Forget the fact that I am 64, physically active, and look and feel absolutely fabulous.

The lessons: No matter your age, be and do you and accept yourself for who you are; nurture your friendships, especially with your women friends; and be thankful – for everything. 

As I was leaving the movie theater, I found myself wondering what it must feel like to have the same circle of friends for over 60 years; people you see month after month, with regularity and consistency. I also left thinking how nice it must be to still be active well into your 90s.

Do you have friends you have seen month after month for over 20, 40, or 60 years? How does that feel? I would love to hear from you.

Counting down… Next week, I will return with 10 more nuggets for women who want to age gracefully and with dignity and confidence. I will also tell you about my new passion/interest.

Credo for Aging Continued…

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Credo for Aging Continued…

Since my last post, I celebrated my 64th birthday. A few days before my birthday, I was watching Oprah’s LifeClass (with Iyanla Vanzant). The show caused me think about my life; and ask myself, “Am I living the life I wanted or asked for?”  After reflecting and reviewing some of my personal notes from 15 or more years ago, I realized – with a jolt – that my basic lifestyle is what I asked for. It’s what I ordered. It’s a good life. And, every day, I am thankful. Could I have ordered more? Could I have been more specific? Yes. But, today, it is what it is. When I look at my life (and how I see myself), there are three words I use to describe me: fit…fabulous…fearless. Fit and fabulous, I am comfortable with. But, fearless?  I am not nearly as fearless as I want or need to be. So, each day, I challenge myself to step out more. And, each day, I get better and better.

Now on to my nuggets… As of today, I have shared 72 nuggets.  I hope that some of them resonated with you.  Here are 10 more. Again, from my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets of Truth for Women who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence. 

  • Carefully choose and guard your inner circle.
    “Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. “ – Susan Taylor 
  • Think like a beginner.
    “In the beginner’s mind, there are many possibilities; in the expert’s mind there are few.” – Shunryu Suzuki 
  • Have people in your inner circle who are young in mind, body and spirit.
    “Hanging out with younger, healthier people helps to keep you young at heart.” –Daisy Saunders 
  • Surround yourself with what you love.
    “Surround yourself with what you love, whether it’s family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants and     hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.” – George Carlin 
  • Nurture yourself.
    “Self preservation is the first law of nature.” – Samuel Butler 
  • Ask for what you want.
    “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.” – Mahatma Gandhi 
  • Be adventurous.
    “Adventures are to the adventurous.” – Benjamin Disraeli 
  • Say “no”.
    “Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” – Josh Billings 
  • Be good to yourself.
    “The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.” ~Sonya Friedman 
  • Put yourself first.
     “Put your own self highest on your priority list.” – Michelle Obama 

If you have some nuggets (or comments) or quotes you would like to share, I welcome them. As always, I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.  And, I am still looking for women who are aging gracefully (with dignity and confidence). Let me hear from you.

Credo for Aging Continued…

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Last week, I took a break from my nuggets to share another superwoman story. This week, they are back. Again, these nuggets are based on my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets of Truth for Women who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence.

  • Let go of things, people, values that no longer serve you.
    “Life is too short to cling to values that no longer serve me.” – Unknown 
  • Be playful.
    "We don't stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing."  -George Bernard Shaw 
  • Learn a new skill or a hobby. 
    “A hobby a day keeps the doldrums away.” – Phyllis McGinley 
  • Keep an open mind.
    “When it comes to staying young, a mind-lift beats a face-lift any day.”  -Marty Bucella 
  • Treat each day as if it’s the best and last day of your life. 
    ”You had better live your best and act your best and think your best today; for today is the sure preparation for tomorrow and all the other     tomorrows that follow.” – Harriet Martineau 
  • Step outside of your comfort zone.
    “Whatever you do, take one more step out of your comfort zone.” – Jackie Hudson  
  • Pay no attention to what others think of you or say about you. 
    “At twenty we worry about what others think of us; at forty we don't care about what others think of us; at sixty we discover they haven't been thinking about us at all.”  
    – Unknown                                             
  • Volunteer. 
    “What we do during our working hours determines what we have; what we do in our leisure hours determines who we are.” – Abigail Van Buren 
  • Mind your money. 
    “Money is one of the most important subjects of your entire life. Some of life's greatest enjoyments and most of life's greatest disappointments stem from your decisions about money. Whether you experience great peace of mind or constant anxiety will depend on getting your finances under control.” – Robert G. Allen 
  • Be mindful of everything. 
    “Mindfulness isn't difficult; we just need to remember to do it.” –Sharon Salzberg

If you have some nuggets (or comments) or quotes you would like to share, I welcome them. As always, I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.  And, I am still looking for women who are aging gracefully (with dignity and confidence). Let me hear from you.

Another Super Woman…Driven by her passion

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Another Super Woman…Driven by her passion

This week I am taking a break from my nuggets so that I can share another super woman story.

My friends know that I am always looking for stories of powerful non-celebrity women. This one was sent to me in an email. It underscores my nugget: Be passionate about something.

Passion keeps you young in body, mind, and spirit.  If you don’t believe me, just ask Margaret Dunning, a lifelong car enthusiast; passionate about cars. Ms. Dunning is a 101 year old Michigan woman who still changes the oil and spark plugs in her beloved 1930 automobile.  In her collection is a 1930 Packard 740 roadster, which she has owned (and still drives) since 1940. I said automobile instead of car because I am sure you agree with me when I say: “a 1930 Packard 740 roadster is more than a car. A Volkswagen is a car; a 1930 Packard 740 roadster is an automobile.” This vehicle is pretty cool. (See below)

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To see a video of this fascinating woman, Google her. An article also appeared in the July 8, 2011, edition of the New York Times.No doubt, her love of cars has kept her young in body, mind, and spirit.  What are you passionate about?  If you run across an interesting woman, I would love to hear from you.   

Credo for Aging Continued…

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Again, the continuation of my Credo for Aging which is based on my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets of Truth for Women who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence.

  • Protect your skin from prolonged exposure in the sun. 
    “Let the sun shine.” – Henry David Thoreau 
  • Journal 
    “Journaling makes me feel I've accomplished something, learned something about myself, become a better person. Journaling to me is Bliss!" – Marilyn Schott 
  • Protect your mind
    “When you get up in the morning, just as you clothe your body to go out to meet the elements (weather), you clothe your mind. You clothe your mind by feeding it positive talk which results in positive thoughts”.  – Norman Vincent Peale 
  • Feed your mind as well as your body. 
    “To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.  – Buddha 
  • Live in the present…not the past. 
    "Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why we call it the present."  – Babatunde Olatunji 
  • Connect. 
    “When we connect, it doesn’t just make us feel better; it makes us do better.” – Keith Harrell 
  • Be positive.
    ”The greatest discovery of my generation is that man can alter his life simply by altering his attitude of mind.”
     – William James 
  • Love yourself. 
    “I don’t like myself. I am crazy about myself.” – Mae West 
  • Read.
    “Reading gives us some place to go when we have to stay where we are.” – Mason Cooley 
  • Give thanks. 
    “If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.”  – Meister Eckhardt  

If you have some nuggets (or comments) or quotes you would like to share, I welcome them. As always, I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.  And, I am looking for women who are aging gracefully (with dignity and confidence). 

Credo for Aging Continued…

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Again, the continuation of my Credo for Aging which is based on my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets of Truth for Women who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence.

  • Listen.
    “Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and ignorant, they too have their story.” – Max Ehrman 
  • Watch your thoughts.
    “Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; for it becomes your destiny.”   -Upanishad 
  • Update your look.
    “A smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks.  – Charles Gordy 
  • Meditate.
    “Meditation brings wisdom; lack of meditation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what hold you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom.”  -Buddha 
  • Don’t believe everything you hear; or everything you tell yourself.
    “Take a day to heal from the lies you’ve told yourself and the lies that have been told to you.”  – Maya Angelou 
  • Be relevant, be helpful, and “do you”.
    “Whether you're winning or losing, it's important to always be yourself. You can't change because of the circumstances around you.--Cotton Fitzsimmons 
  •  Be authentic.
     
    “Living an authentic life requires the ability to be true to our own wants, needs and desires and not live our lives by the opinion of others. Being authentic is the ability to make self-honoring choices and stand firmly in who we are in our core. Being true to ourselves gives us the insight and compassion to see others for who they are, not who we expect them to be. It frees us up from the judgment of ourselves and others and it gives others the freedom to be themselves as well.” – Victoria J. Reynolds 
  • Be enthusiastic.
    “None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiasm.” – Henry David Thoreau 
  • Dance, sing, love
    “Dance as if no one is watching. Sing as if no one is listening. Love as if you have never been hurt.” –Unknown 
  • Drink water.
    “Water is the only drink for a wise man.” –Henry David Thoreau 

If you have some nuggets (or comments) or quotes you would like to share, I welcome them. As always, I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.  Still, I am looking for women who are aging gracefully (with dignity and confidence). 

Credo for Aging Continued

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Credo for Aging Continued

Last week, I didn’t post because I was mentally preparing to run the St. Petersburg Inaugural Rock n Roll Half Marathon. This one required a lot of preparation, meditation, and medication. My right hip hadn’t fully recovered from my November 5th race. But, I was determined to run it. As a result, it was the longest and most painful run I have ever done though I still had a 2:49:08 finish time. The lessons: 1) Will power and a strong body can take you a long way…mind over matter, and 2) Listen to your body; and when it says rest…..REST.

Now, the continuation of my Credo for Aging… Again, the series is based on my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets of Truth for Women who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence.

  • Be resilient.
    “Man never made any material as resilient as the human spirit.” – Bern Williams 
  • Have some diversity in your life.
    “Variety is the spice of life. – American Proverbs 
  • Be compassionate.
    “If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” – Jack Kornfield 
  •  Embrace imperfection.
    “Only the gods are considered capable of producing anything perfect. Whenever something is made, a flaw is left on purpose so the gods will not be offended.”– Malaysian Culture 
  • Be appreciative.
    “Appreciation is the strongest, purest form of love. It is the outward-bound kind of love that asks for nothing and gives everything.” – Unknown 

There are many more nuggets to come. Meanwhile, if you have some nuggets (or comments) you would like to share, I welcome them. As always, I am open and receptive to anything you have to say. 

THIS WEEK’S SUPERWOMEN 

This week, I have some superwomen … an entire dancing/singing troupe… made up of senior citizens where the average age is between 72 and 75. The event: The Fab Follies 14th Season Production of The Best of Times. The ensemble consisted of 26 seniors where the average age was between 72 and 75, I think. It may have been older. I don’t know. All I know is this: these women and men were amazing. They moved like 30 year olds. The costumes were fabulous. You would have had to see the show to believe it. It was like watching a Broadway musical. Rather than talk about it, I’ll just show you a few photos I captured. 

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Credo for Aging Continued

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Credo for Aging Continued

Another continuation of my Credo for Aging… Again, the series is based on my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets of Truth for Women who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence.

  • Be passionate about something.
    “Each of us has a fire in our hearts for something. It’s our goal in life to find it and to keep it lit.”-- Mary Lou Retton 
  • Live with purpose.
    “The purpose of life is a life of purpose.” – Robert Byrne 
  • Be willing to look at your faults.
    “Until I accept my faults I will most certainly doubt my virtues.” – Hugh Prather
  • Be change-friendly.
    “It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” – Charles Darwin 
  • Strive for optimum health.
    ”He who has health has hope. And, he who has hope has everything.” –Arabian Proverb            

There are many more nuggets to come. Meanwhile, if you have some nuggets (or comments) you would like to share, I welcome them. As always, I am open and receptive to anything you have to say. 

THIS WEEK’S SUPERWOMAN 

Sometimes I write about women I know and other times I write about women I have only read about. This week, I am introducing you to a woman I read about while browsing the February issue of the AAA Going Places newsletter. I ran across an article by Nick Ferry entitled, Where Do You See Yourself in 50 Years? In the article, he posed two questions: What were you doing 50 years ago and were you even born yet? He concluded that whatever we were doing, most of us had moved on to something else. Not Bernice Bates. Fifty-one years ago Bernice started teaching yoga. Today, at the ripe old age of 91, she is still a practicing yoga instructor. In fact, as of 2011, she holds the Guinness World Record as the world’s oldest yoga instructor. Bernice teaches a weekly yoga class, leading stretches and poses that many twenty-something year olds can’t do.  Take a look.

Can you do this? I know I can’t.

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Reading about Bernice inspires and reminds me that age is just a number; an issue of mind over matter. To learn more about her, just google her. She has been profiled in numerous newspapers, magazines, and health publications.

What were you doing 50 years ago? Were you even born yet? Let me hear from you.  

Nuggets of Truth about Aging

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Nuggets of Truth about Aging


A nugget is a small piece of information or advice that is helpful, useful or important. With that said, this week’s post begins my Nuggets of Truth series which will last several weeks. The series is based on my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets of Truth for Women who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence (my working title).

In a previous post, I suggested that you’re never too young or old to start the process of aging with dignity and confidence. So, these nuggets have something for everyone – regardless of age or gender. On second thought, maybe not.  For example, if you’re now in your mid eighties, well…….. Nonetheless, even if you’re in your eighties, it’s never too late to do something.

Here goes:

  • Change the way you think about aging.
    "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." – Mark Twain 
  • Embrace your age, no matter what it is.
    “Everyone is the age of their heart.” – Guatemalan Proverb 
  • Make fitness and exercise a priority.
    “Physical fitness is not only one of the most important keys to a healthy body; it is the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity.” – John F. Kennedy
  • Practice wellness. 
    “You can set yourself up to be sick, or you can choose to stay well.” – Wayne Dyer 
  • Make stretching a habit – your body and your mind. 
    “Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.” – Unknown 
  • Exercise your brain.
    “You know you've got to exercise your brain just like your muscles.”– Will Rogers 
  • Eat consciously.
    “When you are eating, eat totally - chew totally, taste totally, smell totally. Touch your bread, feel the texture. Smell the bread, smell the flavor. Chew it, let it dissolve into your being, and remain conscious.” - Osho
  • Eat to live; not live to eat.
    “To lengthen thy life, lessen thy meals.” --- Ben Franklin 
  • Eat the right food.
    “Your stomach should not be a wastebasket.” – Unknown 
  • Value and feel good about yourself.
    “If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.” - Author Unknown 

These nuggets represent my credo for aging with dignity and confidence. There are many more to come. Meanwhile, if you have some nuggets you would like to share, I welcome them. I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.

BTW:  I am still highlighting women who are aging or have aged gracefully. So, if you have a person, story or photo you would like share with me, I would love to hear from you. 

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Nuggets of Truth about Aging

A nugget is a small piece of information or advice that is helpful, useful or important. With that said, this week’s post begins my Nuggets of Truth series which will last several weeks. The series is based on my upcoming book, 101 Nuggets of Truth for Women who Want to Age with Dignity and Confidence (my working title).

In a previous post, I suggested that you’re never too young or old to start the process of aging with dignity and confidence. So, these nuggets have something for everyone – regardless of age or gender. On second thought, maybe not.  For example, if you’re now in your mid eighties, well…….. Nonetheless, even if you’re in your eighties, it’s never too late to do something.

Here goes:

  • Change the way you think about aging.
    "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter." – Mark Twain 
  • Embrace your age, no matter what it is.
    “Everyone is the age of their heart.” – Guatemalan Proverb 
  • Make fitness and exercise a priority.
    “Physical fitness is not only one of the most important keys to a healthy body; it is the basis of dynamic and creative intellectual activity.” – John F. Kennedy
  • Practice wellness.
    “You can set yourself up to be sick, or you can choose to stay well.” – Wayne Dyer 
  • Make stretching a habit – your body and your mind.
    “Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.” – Unknown 
  • Exercise your brain.
    “You know you've got to exercise your brain just like your muscles.”– Will Rogers 
  • Eat consciously.
    “When you are eating, eat totally - chew totally, taste totally, smell totally. Touch your bread, feel the texture. Smell the bread, smell the flavor. Chew it, let it dissolve into your being, and remain conscious.” - Osho
  • Eat to live; not live to eat.
    “To lengthen thy life, lessen thy meals.” --- Ben Franklin 
  • Eat the right food.
    “Your stomach should not be a wastebasket.” – Unknown 
  • Value and feel good about yourself.
    “If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.” - Author Unknown 

These nuggets represent my credo for aging with dignity and confidence. There are many more to come. Meanwhile, if you have some nuggets you would like to share, I welcome them. I am open and receptive to anything you have to say.

BTW:  I am still highlighting women who are aging or have aged gracefully. So, if you have a person, story or photo you would like share with me, I would love to hear from you. 

Living Well in 2012

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Living Well in 2012


Welcome to 2012! This year, I am renewing my commitment to live well. And, I invite you to join me. Here are ten simple, easy to implement, actions I will take each and every day –no matter where I am, what I am doing, or what is happening in my life. For a fuller discussion of these actions and a free download, please go to the Articles section of this site for my article, Give Yourself the Gift of Health.

  • Exercise. To see results, you don’t need 1 or 2 hours, you only need 20 or 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week. Shoot for cardio, balance, flexibility, and resistance training. See my article, Strength Training and Aging, for the benefits of strength or resistance training. 
  • Stretch. When you make stretching a part of your daily life, every part of your body thanks you. You experience less pain; you loosen up; and, you have more energy. 
  • Eat consciously. Be more aware of what you are eating and how your food choices can affect your body, mind, emotions, and overall well being – now as well as in the future. Making better food choices is not an option. It’s a necessity. 
  • Drink water. To start your day off on the “good foot”, so to speak, drink at least one 8 oz glass as soon as you get up. Throughout the day, drink water, water, and even more water. 
  • Journal. Get a notebook and write down something every single day. This simple act is empowering because it helps you to track where you’ve been, where you are and just how much progress you’ve made. 
  • Protect your mind. Be mindful of what you listen to and read. And, don’t believe everything you hear. Consider the source. Don’t even believe everything you tell yourself.  Regardless of the source: Garbage in garbage out. 
  • Connect. Have one person you connect with every single day. This is especially important as you get older. This let someone know that you are alive and well. And, it lets the other person know that they matter. 
  • Be positive. Every day, resolve to do these three things to maintain a positive attitudesmile, focus on what you have not what you don’t have, and expect only great things to happen to you. 
  • Read. Start your day by reading and absorbing something motivational, inspirational, and educational. And, by all means, make it positive. 
  • Give thanks. Think of each day as a gift. And, be grateful.

When you make a commitment live well, you are making a huge difference not only in your own life but in the lives of your loved ones.

What are some of your plans for living well in 2012? Let me hear from you.